It is the middle of the night and I am writing this post. Why, you must know? One, I have insomnia. Two, I cannot find time at any other point in the day to write! I am plagued by my never ending “To Do” list and it feels like everyone wants a piece of me, you know? So, I sit here in the middle of the night with a confession. I’m a mom, but I can’t do it ALL.
Maybe it is because I am a woman that I always feel like I have to multi-task. I literally have all pans in the fire…plus I am probably trying to do something with my toes and I usually have a baby on my boob. It is too much, people! Something (me) is going to burn!
I am trying to be a mom, wife, teacher, housekeeper, counselor, blogger, and friend simultaneously. It is not working. Something has got to give. Oh, and it can’t be me that gives because I have nothing left. I cannot be all things to all people all the time. I can’t do it ALL anymore.
Planning to Prioritize
This feeling of being overwhelmed coupled with guilt is not new. I realize that I must prioritize. When I consider all of my roles in life, I think it is fairly obvious that “mom” comes first. Gladly and willingly, I put my daughter’s needs before my own. Herein lies the problem, whom comes next in the list?
I shall give you a hint. This mama does not play second fiddle or even third…fifth or tenth. Next up is my hubby…in my mind and my heart. However, in reality my job is a lot needier than my husband. Sure, he likes hot meals and clean laundry, but he is capable of taking over these responsibilities.
Being a teacher means you are a mom all over again to your students. Any good teacher worth their apples will tell you that it is impossible to leave the needs of your students at school at the end of the day. It is even more difficult to separate yourself when you are a virtual teacher who teaches online from home. But it is not just the students that needs you. It is your principal and the parents. The office manager, the other teachers, and the four dozen teams you are a member of need you, too.
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To be honest, this blog is far from any sort of business. Right now it is a passion and I hope that it can lead me down the path of becoming a full-time writer…someday. I love to write, even if I can only do it in the middle of the night.
To become a blogger, however, there is a lot more to it than just writing posts. First of all, your writing should be fairly good. I always tell my students that the writing process is never done because you should always go back and revise and edit…and then revise and edit some more.
Then, you have to make your post pretty. You must use a great plug-in like Yoast and check your post for readability. I tend to like very robust sentences. Yoast begs to differ. It is also important to add high quality images, so taking a class in photography is also on my “To Do” list. Next, you take these fabulous photos and turn them into Pinterest graphics using a site like Canva.
You think bloggers are done once they press that “publish” button? Oh, no, my friends. Now it is time to promote your little heart out. I am so incredibly grateful that I *found my tribe online to help promote my blog and provide me valuable insight and advice. Just yesterday, a member of my “tribe” reached out to me because there was a problem with my site that she noticed when she was reading my latest post. She saved me…and my blog!
The downside of joining dozens of Mamapreneur Facebook groups and Pinterest boards is that you have to actively do your part and this requires time. The upside is that nobody knows my struggle of trying to do it all better than these ladies!
I Don’t Know How She Does It…All
There is a movie with Sarah Jessica Parker aptly titled “I Don’t Know How She Does It”. I have not seen it because, as you have probably surmised, I do not have time to watch a movie! Anyway, I digress. In the previews, it shows SJP running her “To Do” lists over and over in her head. That is me. I cannot get that stinking “To Do” list out of my brain!
There are moms out there who always look put together and arrive at their designated locations on time. I don’t know how they do it. Is it smoke and mirrors? Did they find a way to clone themselves?
The only way I am arriving on time with my toddler in tow is if I turn the clocks back and start getting ready the night before. BrittanyAnneF
When I eventually arrive, my daughter will look adorable and I will look like I bathed in a car wash. Like someone just shoved me through the flaps and doused me in soap and water before giving a half-hearted attempt at putting me through the dryer. It is not pretty people, people.