Becoming a mom is a miraculous event. I know I love being a mom more than anything in this world. However, the love that you have for that tiny person becomes so all-encompassing that you can lose yourself in it. Sound familiar? Tracey Clayton, author at High Style Life, is back today to share her tips on how to fall back in love with yourself after giving birth.
5 Ways I Have Fallen in Love with Myself After Giving Birth
“Mom, You Need a Spa Day!”
So, the other day, my youngest comes to me and says “Mom, you look like Hell! You should go to a spa or something” and I think to myself “Wait, what’s just happened?” and remain in utter and complete shock.
No love in this world is as big or as strong as the love we’ve got for our little bits of fairy dust. It’s almost like you are struggling for air, the chest hurts all the time with a pressing feeling of love and, for sure, you feel like your whole body will go Boom! at one point.
Hah, it may sound a bit melodramatic or even a bit ditzy, but when you are a mum – you simply don’t care whether all the feelings you’ve got for your kids will sound pathetic, desperate or just plain cute. And let me tell you this, sometimes – I, myself, can’t believe levels of mushiness I’ve achieved!
I used to be so cool and collected, I promise. Mom blog? What? I remember the times when I’d see my friends post pics of their kids all over Facebook and going into eye-rolling mode on autopilot. I’d think “Omg, do they really have to post their kid AGAIN? We’ve seen the baby, already!”
But, here I am – years from then – drooling over my kids with just as much annoying enthusiasm and overwhelming love as they did. And guess what? I don’t even care about the judgment! But I obviously need a spa day, don’t I?
Adding “Mom” to the “To Do” List
My kids are a bit bigger now (past third and fourth grade) and I don’t have the breastfeeding, diaper duty, barfing all over my shirt, teeth growing and other I’ll-go-mad activities around me. Finally in the safe zone and – let me tell you this – it feels amazing.
Apart from my youngest who is still in the kindergarten, the other kids are already in that Mom-I’ll-Do-It-Myself mood, so I am off the hook (most of the time). The youngest one is still too little to play independent, so I’m focusing on her as much as possible.
Luckily, kindergarten services are amazing these days (with the two older ones, I didn’t have such great options) so signing Lilly up for the phenomenal early learning centre not only made my life easier but also has given her a multitude of options to develop socially, emotionally and educationally. I love it!
Since I know how difficult parenting can be (ok, let’s just say it like it is – how difficult IT IS ALL THE TIME) I’m writing this blog hoping to reach at least a few of you amazing moms out there and push you for action – the action of loving yourself again with the same dedication and passion as you have before you were moms.
No, that won’t mean giving up on your kids, God forbid; it’ll only mean learning to find the time and love within to take care of that beautiful soul you’ve been forgetting about lately.
Take my advice or make your own list of I-need-to-do things that will glitter up your soul and let those pearly whites guide the day! This is what I’ve been doing to reconnect with my inner-self:
I Found Bliss
I, personally, am a very spiritual person and I’ve always felt the way to keep my calm and stay focus was through any type of meditation; unfortunately, prior to becoming a parent I had never had the time to do it (being a big corporate shot did take a lot of my time, after all).
However, now – I finally did. I’ve taken up yoga and I feel amazing! Each time I’m exercising yoga I am walking through temples of my inner being, reaching growing serenity every step of the way. I’d recommend it to everyone. If you are religious, prayers will help you too, maybe even more so than yoga.
I Encouraged My Passions
Well, okay – you’re not really expecting this but – I’ve finally found the time to indulge in my one favorite hobby in the world – knitting! Yes, you’ve read it well. I know, I know, it’s not really modern and there is nothing tech-inspired or earth-shattering about it but I adore it.
My late grandma and I would knit for hours back in the day when I was a kid. We’d go to the yarn markets together and pick out the most beautiful of knitting bowls, then come back home and sketch and design scarves, blanket scarves, jumpers, overcoats… I’ve started doing it again now, it’s my little me time where I’m reconnecting with my little Tracey and making her happy continuously.
I Picked Up Sports
Yes. I am regular on the track these days and I feel amazing (and I look pretty fine, too!). I wake up before the kids and my hubby, Mike, are up, go for a run and come back refreshed. Find your sport, mums – immediately!
I Fell in Love with Me
When Sophie screamed to my face that I am in a desperate need of a spa, I figured – maybe I am! From that moment on, I’ve made it my business to go to the hairdresser at least once a week, have regular (twice a month) relax massages, and I will never miss my mani-pedi again! My cosmetician is seeing me with the same frequency she has before I had the kids (my face is glowing again, thank you very much). And, khm, Mike is happy, too (if you know what I mean).
I Go on Dates
…with myself! Whenever I’ve got some free time, I pick up my camera and go around. I just walk and enjoy it. Sometimes I visit galleries, go to a movie alone or pick up my laptop and write in the nearest coffee shop. It’s amazing, please try it.
Loving yourself. Don’t ever forget it and please start doing it again. Your kids won’t judge, I promise.
About the Author:
Tracey Clayton is a full-time mom of three girls. She feels she knows a thing or two about raising happy, healthy and confident kids, and offers helpful advice in hers parenting articles. Her motto is: “Live the life you love, love the life you live.”
Be sure to check out Tracey’s other guest post here, “Fun and Frugal Crafting Ideas You Can Do With Your Kids” or her article on Rebuilding Body Confidence After Pregnancy.