How to Promote Your Child's Independence 6 Easy Steps

How to Promote Your Child’s Independence in Six Easy Steps

As a toddler mom, I understand the struggle to foster your child’s independence. Sometimes, my daughter wants me to do everything for her. Other days, she’s a “big girl” and wants to do it “all by herself”. Don’t try to predict these times as a toddler parent! There is no rhyme or reason!

As a teacher of elementary students, I know independence is crucial for educational success. It is why I am sending my little tyke off to preschool instead of teaching her myself. For my daughter, who has spent every moment of her life attached to my hip (literally), she is ready to spread her wings. Home schooling may very well come later, but for now (sniff, sniff), off she goes.

It is a delicate balance with young children. On one hand, you just want to help your child in every way possible. You also probably want to keep them little for as long as possible. On the other hand, you want your child to grow into a capable and productive member of society. For this, they need to develop their independence.

Don’t know where to start? Well, James is here today to help us parents guide our children on the path to independence. It is easier than we may think!

How to Promote Your Child’s Independence in Six Easy Steps

Guest Post By James Paul

How to Promote Your Child's Independence

An indispensable part of parenting is to grow independent, confident children who can properly utilize the support of friends and parents as they grow. As a result, many parents seek for the advice on how to promote their child’s independence.

Well, it is not the hardest thing as you think. You too can develop a real sense of independence in your child. Kids usually strive for more freedom since the age of two. Thus, from this age, you should encourage them to do minor tasks such as brushing teeth, washing hands, etc.

So, let’s jump on the main topic and find out the ways to promote child’s independence.

Spend Time Teaching Your Child Independence

Initially, parents should focus on teaching some basic tasks. For example, cleaning the play area, putting toys in the cupboard, arranging dinner table, etc. These works may appear easy to us, but they boost the confidence level of your kid. You can set one new work per week.

If the task is relatively difficult, then you can divide it into multiple steps and explain to your child how to do it. For example, don’t expect your kid to put dirty clothes in the hamper. Instead, divide this task into multiple steps such as identifying dirty clothes and putting them in a basket.

Just like a math tutor first teaches the arithmetic operations and then provides sample questions for practicing; you too need to follow the same route while developing your child’s independence.

Give Opportunities to Gain Independence

Being independent and self-sufficient means being able to make settlements for yourself; therefore, set your child free to make some of the own choices. You can simplify the choices first and then allow your kid to make own decision.

For example, let your children decide what would they like to take in the lunch. If your child is unable to answer this question, then provide the choices such as macaroni, jelly, or sandwich.

Appreciate Their Struggle for Independence

Even if the outcome is not impressive, always make sure to let your toddlers know that you recognize and appreciate their efforts. Childhood is the precursor. It is a crucial time for teens; therefore, parents must appreciate even the smallest achievements in the beginning.

Hold Back Your Involvement

Sometimes you just need to supervise things instead of taking active participation in the task. Your continuous involvement may make your child dependent. Thus, restrict your contribution to initial training phase only.

Create Kid-Friendly Surroundings

You may get surprised, but it is true that creating kid-friendly environment has numerous benefits. For example, you can adopt some temporary changes in your kitchen’s design. Place cups, dishes, snacks, etc. on the lowest rack so that your kid’s hands can reach there without any support. You can implement such changes in the entire house.

In this way, you should take every possible step that can make your child independent. When in doubt, remind yourself an example of a private tutor who takes utmost care while teaching your child.

Some More Thoughts!

  • Honest and crystal-clear conversation can create a lifetime friendship with your child.
  • Setting age-appropriate tasks and creating routines will help your child learn faster
  • Teach your kids how to be safe while doing certain tasks
  • Try to become their good friend and teacher

This is how you can promote your child’s independence by taking a few simple steps. Have some more mom-tips on this topic? Please do let us know through the comment box.

James is a professional consultant and writer. He also enjoys writing career guidance articles for the students and their parents. You can find him on: SmileTutor | Facebook | Youtube | Google+.

Did you love James’ tips? Do you have your own tips for fostering your child’s independence? Please comment and share below!

6 Easy Ways to Promote your Child's Independence


9 thoughts on “How to Promote Your Child’s Independence in Six Easy Steps

  1. Love these suggestions! I always had a hard time finding the appropriate balance as a special education teacher. You want to give them the support they need to access the content, but not TOO much where it becomes a crutch!

    1. Yes! I have found that students end up developing learned helplessness if they are helped TOO much. They begin believing that they can’t do anything without assistance. I have given the parents homework to work on their “level” if help!

  2. These are such good ideas! My daughter isn’t much of a talker yet, so I often forget that I can give her choices about what she eats and what we do together. I’m going to start implementing these tips for sure!

    1. I started doing that with my little one very early and learned that she has very distinct preferences! For example, I always read to dress your baby is a layer more than you would wear. However, my daughter run warm and has preferred light clothing even as a baby. How much happier she was when I let her choose between long sleeves and short!

  3. These are awesome tips!! I’m not going to lie, sometimes I struggle with the fact that my 4 year old is TOO independent. I wish he could stay little forever! I know my 1 year old will probably be a little more mommy attached so these are awesome ways to start working on things with him!

    1. I know exactly what you mean! My daughter is very independent, but also simultaneously very attached. I think that allowing my daughter some independence has taught her how to make good and safe choices. I actually worry less (kind of) knowing that she has a good head on her shoulders, even at a young age.

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